Thoughts on Women and the Aging Process

By Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-R & Emily Shapiro, MS, LMFT

While preparing to write this blog on women and the aging process, we encountered a bit of struggle in deciding how best to approach this topic in a way that is both compassionate and honest, respectful and real but not alienating, dry or too instructive. What we realized is that this struggle we were having, in a way reflects a bit of what women experience during the aging process – how to be seen for who they are, how to feel … Read More

9 Signs That Your Child is Struggling While Away at College and 9 Steps You Can Take to Help.

Recently we have noticed a marked increase in calls from distressed and anguished parents seeking help for their distressed, depressed, withdrawn and anxious college students. A number of these students are either struggling while away at school, have returned home mid-semester taking a leave of absence or planning not to return to school at all after winter break.  It’s a challenging time for all replete with worry, shame and feelings of failure for all involved.

Attending a 4-year college away from home as long been regarded as our cultural equivalence … Read More

7 Tips to Avoid a Turbulent Turkey Day

depositphotos_58511447_s-2015Dreading seeing certain relatives over Thanksgiving? Contemplating canceling all together? “So sorry Aunt Marge I can’t make it this year, must have caught that nasty stomach virus that’s been going around. Yeah, you know the election brutalias virus, where at the slightest mention of or boasting about the candidate that I didn’t vote for, I become nauseous, enraged and at high risk for slinging mashed potatoes across the room. Yeah that one, lasts about 4 years. So sorry, so see you in 2020. Happy Thanksgiving!!”

It’s not uncommon to … Read More

Post-Election Tips for Moving Forward

depositphotos_28093637_s-2015People are afraid, people are very afraid. And others, well are satisfied and hopeful. This election has proven to be a deeply emotional time for many of our citizens. And as a group of therapists working with clients who share this varied array of viewpoints and reactions, we have been processing our own feelings together in effort to see what we can learn from one another and what positive action steps we can take towards healing what seems to be a deeply divided country.

We have outlined a few ideas … Read More

The Anxiety of Parenting

Motherhood is not so colorful...Look around you, do you see us? We’re not hard to notice. We are the current crop of modern day parents doing our best to care for our children while tending to the sometimes overflowing spring of anxiety stirring beneath the surface. (Full disclosure here…as a working mom of two school-aged children, I count myself as one of them.)

For some parents the anxiety seeps out of their pores and is tangible in their aura, for others it’s a little better concealed but nonetheless just as potent and jarring. (Personally … Read More

Honoring the Mothers Who Shape Us

by Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-R

Mother with her baby. Photo in old image style.I attended my first blessing circle recently for a most precious friend and mother. This blessing circle took the place of our culturally accepted and expected “baby shower” and so instead of showering the second-time-around-mom- to-be with gifts of baby booties and onesies, we bestowed gifts of love, friendship, support, positive energy and blessings for a smooth birthing process.

What touched me most about this ritual was how we began. We were asked to introduce ourselves to one another via our lineage of mothers as far … Read More

What IS Love and What is it TO Love?

By Amir Levine, PhD, LCSW and Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-R

word love at sunsetExploring what love is, is no light task. Just look at the multitude of songs, poems, stories, paintings and sculptures that have been created throughout history on the basis of this magical four letter word. Innumerable gestures of honoring love and the countless attempts to understand love’s phenomenology including love’s joy as well as love’s pain has given life to a wealth of artistic masterpieces and gems. Yet despite these timeless musings, reflections and creations, people continue to wrestle with understanding … Read More

The Real Deal About Resolutions: 3 Reasons Why Resolutions Fade and Smart Steps to Helping Them Last

by Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-R

Here we are again at this juncture in time – the start of a brand new year. And what this time usually brings with it is the pressure to create a resolution or two or more for how we will be different, better or a more improved version of ourselves in the New Year.  So we may hear or make declarations such as, “I’m done with cigarettes…I will go to the gym every day before work…I promise not to be so judgmental…I will volunteer at the … Read More