Emerging From the Deep Freeze – Through Self-Reflection & Mindfulness

by Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-R

Ahhh the weather…a universal phenomenon that connects us all. Whether we are accepting of and enjoying it or are feeling fed up and loathsome with our current weather, most everyone everywhere registers some reaction to the type of weather system they are entrenched in.

For instance, here in the NY Metro area, we have been under a deep freeze. I saw one list of statistics that noted this February as the 4th coldest month of record. Translation: whatever age you are, you have probably never … Read More

Can We Talk About NEEDS?

by Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-R

In my work I come by a lot of mixed feelings regarding that little N word…NEEDS. Some people have difficulty acknowledging their needs, some people feel uncomfortable having needs and some struggle with expressing their needs. Alternatively, others may feel especially peeved or averse by another’s perceived over-emphasis of their needs (aka, “being too needy”), meanwhile others can be almost too accommodating of another’s needs thereby compromising their safety or well-being at times.

At what point along our journey in this life do we become so … Read More

The Need to Normalize and Prioritize Discussion of Mental Health

by Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-R

Recently Nicholas Kristof of the New York Times wrote an editorial in which he outlined the necessity for placing Mental Health at #1 on the agenda of news pundits and journalists to address in their work. To those of us who work in the field of mental health, what Mr. Kristof writes resonates deeply on a visceral level; for our purpose in entering this field of work is exactly that – tending to those who struggle with and hopefully thereby easing the burden of the various … Read More

Tips for Handling Conflict in Couples

by Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-R

Conflict happens in every relationship. In fact, it is an inevitable part of any close and meaningful relationship between people who share and care about each other.  When managed correctly, conflict can be a wonderful opportunity for growth and may significantly strengthen the bonds of a relationship.  Nevertheless, when conflict occurs too often and is managed in a non-constructive manner, it can drive a wedge between what could otherwise be a healthy relationship and serve to push people apart from one another. After a prolonged period … Read More

Managing Interpersonal Conflict at Work

by Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-R

In every work setting the potential for conflict is real and unavoidable. Most of us have experienced those uncomfortable moments  when caught in a conflict with a co-worker, supervisor and/or customer where were stumped as to how best to proceed. Or, when we do respond, we feel dissatisfied with the result and obsessively replay in our minds a different course of action that, “we should have taken” which may have yielded a better outcome.

There are certain facts and rules that exist in the workplace that … Read More

What Does It Take To Be HAPPY?

by Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-R

A conversation on the topic of “happiness” is a common one occurring within the walls of a psychotherapy office. Not so long ago, I had one such conversation with a client in which they offered me two varying perspectives on “happiness” that they felt were possible to hold simultaneously but struggled to do so. These two perspectives are as follows….

Aristotle: ” Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of life, the whole aim and end of human existence”

Comedian/Actor, Dennis Leary: “Happiness comes in small … Read More

Why Do I Feel SO Guilty and How Do I Get Over It???

by Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-R

The topic of grappling with guilt is an all too familiar one for a lot of people and it is a recurring theme  in sessions with many of my clients and quite frankly, one I’ve wrestled with myself.   Guilt is a powerful and simultaneously wretched emotional state, one we are at once all too eager to rid ourselves of yet can’t seem to climb out from underneath its weight. Like most uncomfortable and unwanted feeling states, if we tend to it with care and curiosity, the … Read More

Understanding The Phenomena of Mass Murder Shootings and Social Isolation

by Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-R

The tragic shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary School on December of 2012 has left many of us dumbfounded and heartbroken. In the discussions following the deadly shooting contributors from the medial and mental health field devoted ample time to trying to provide a rational explanation for such an irrational act. According to figures extracted from Mother Jones, since 1982 there have been 62 mass shootings in the USA, twenty five of those shootings have occurred since 2006.  These numbers indicate that the mass shooting incident rates … Read More