Thank you John, the Doorman

At the age of 10, after my parents split, I chose to live with my father. It was the mid-80’s and we moved into a full-service building that had doormen. This was good because my father worked, and I spent a number of hours home alone with the condo staff to keep an eye on me. It was a safe environment. Lest you worry I was hurt in any way, I was not.

I was just emerging from a fraught and unamicable divorce in which I was privy to adult … Read More

I Have To Stop Saying I Have To

Weighed down by your responsibilities? Feeling stressed out or even dread about all you “have to” do and take care of? Well, I hear you my friend and I’ve been reflecting about this word “responsibility”, the responsibilities that fill our lives and how we relate to them. Let’s take a look…

Part of this reflection was prompted by my noticing and dislike of hearing myself begin sentences with, “I have to…” or “I’ve got to…” or “I need to…” or some slang gripe about what I was about to do … Read More

EASING INTO “BACK TO SCHOOL”

It’s September, post Labor Day, back to school time is here in much of the Northeast. Personally – and please hear me out before you judge me for sounding too Pollyanna-ish, but I truly love this time of year, always have! This turning of the weather as the nights become cooler, feeling the fall breathing its crisp air over summers dissolution to me cues a building anticipation for September. For me, it is the time when we are perched upon the crest of a new wave of possibility, so much Read More

Post-Election Tips for Moving Forward

depositphotos_28093637_s-2015People are afraid, people are very afraid. And others, well are satisfied and hopeful. This election has proven to be a deeply emotional time for many of our citizens. And as a group of therapists working with clients who share this varied array of viewpoints and reactions, we have been processing our own feelings together in effort to see what we can learn from one another and what positive action steps we can take towards healing what seems to be a deeply divided country.

We have outlined a few ideas … Read More

The Anxiety of Parenting

Motherhood is not so colorful...Look around you, do you see us? We’re not hard to notice. We are the current crop of modern day parents doing our best to care for our children while tending to the sometimes overflowing spring of anxiety stirring beneath the surface. (Full disclosure here…as a working mom of two school-aged children, I count myself as one of them.)

For some parents the anxiety seeps out of their pores and is tangible in their aura, for others it’s a little better concealed but nonetheless just as potent and jarring. (Personally … Read More

Reclaiming Psychological and Emotional Freedom

by Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-R

Reclaiming psychological and emotional freedomEven though we live in a “free” country I question how truly free many of us experience ourselves to be. Being a therapist, I spend many hours of my days sitting and listening to different people who don’t exactly feel so free in life.

I hear people express how they feel trapped by debt, financial worries, social pressure and social stigma. They feel hindered by anxiety, fear, anger and depression, and imprisoned in dysfunctional or abusive relationships or personal disillusionment. Everyone it seems is dealing with … Read More

Why You Ought to Be Concerned About Your Neighbors Mental Health

by Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-R

young man knockingThe impact of mental health issues, especially those that go untreated, reaches every single one of us. If you or someone you are personally connected to are struggling with mental health issues then you know firsthand the devastating and extraordinarily painful challenges that come with the territory. And if you are not directly experiencing the struggle of managing mental health issues, frankly it’s foolish to think that the issues and ills of the human psyche that permeate most every aspect of regular usual daily life won’t … Read More

Why its Crucial to do NOTHING!

by Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-R

woman sitting outdoorsIn our culture, especially the NYC Metro area culture where it tends to be all about ambition and success and striving to become or make something, the notion of sitting and vegging out and doing nothing can seem improbable, impossible and at worst lazy! I’d like to counter that thought and galvanize a movement of “Nothing-doers” to encourage people everywhere who are over-scheduled, over-stressed and overwhelmed or even people who seem to have it all “in-check” to pencil in some time to sit, chill, veg-out … Read More