Thank you John, the Doorman

At the age of 10, after my parents split, I chose to live with my father. It was the mid-80’s and we moved into a full-service building that had doormen. This was good because my father worked, and I spent a number of hours home alone with the condo staff to keep an eye on me. It was a safe environment. Lest you worry I was hurt in any way, I was not.

I was just emerging from a fraught and unamicable divorce in which I was privy to adult … Read More

I Have To Stop Saying I Have To

Weighed down by your responsibilities? Feeling stressed out or even dread about all you “have to” do and take care of? Well, I hear you my friend and I’ve been reflecting about this word “responsibility”, the responsibilities that fill our lives and how we relate to them. Let’s take a look…

Part of this reflection was prompted by my noticing and dislike of hearing myself begin sentences with, “I have to…” or “I’ve got to…” or “I need to…” or some slang gripe about what I was about to do … Read More

Warding off Isolation , Addiction and Danger in the Age of Technology: What Can We Do as Parents?

Our children are facing a unique experience of childhood in the age of technology and fast data. The advancements in technology and the proliferation and reach of social media has not only added new dimensions, gifts as well as dangers, but they are also changing the tapestry of relationships and what it means to form relationships thereby impacting our children’s social emotional development. As if caring for a little person and raising them to be the best human being they can be isn’t challenging enough in its own right, doing … Read More

EASING INTO “BACK TO SCHOOL”

It’s September, post Labor Day, back to school time is here in much of the Northeast. Personally – and please hear me out before you judge me for sounding too Pollyanna-ish, but I truly love this time of year, always have! This turning of the weather as the nights become cooler, feeling the fall breathing its crisp air over summers dissolution to me cues a building anticipation for September. For me, it is the time when we are perched upon the crest of a new wave of possibility, so much Read More

9 Signs That Your Child is Struggling While Away at College and 9 Steps You Can Take to Help.

Recently we have noticed a marked increase in calls from distressed and anguished parents seeking help for their distressed, depressed, withdrawn and anxious college students. A number of these students are either struggling while away at school, have returned home mid-semester taking a leave of absence or planning not to return to school at all after winter break.  It’s a challenging time for all replete with worry, shame and feelings of failure for all involved.

Attending a 4-year college away from home as long been regarded as our cultural equivalence … Read More

The Anxiety of Parenting

Motherhood is not so colorful...Look around you, do you see us? We’re not hard to notice. We are the current crop of modern day parents doing our best to care for our children while tending to the sometimes overflowing spring of anxiety stirring beneath the surface. (Full disclosure here…as a working mom of two school-aged children, I count myself as one of them.)

For some parents the anxiety seeps out of their pores and is tangible in their aura, for others it’s a little better concealed but nonetheless just as potent and jarring. (Personally … Read More

Halloween – Love it or Leave it? A Matter of Perspective…

by Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-R

Halloween can be tricky holiday, no pun intended. Most people I’ve spoken to about NYC Therapy Group, Riverdale NY, Manhattan, group therapy, counseling, family counselingHalloween fall into three camps of thinking about the holiday – the loyalists, the indifferent and the cynics. So depending upon where you find yourself, Halloween is either a time to relish and revel in celebration, a time you just put up with or try to shut out.

The loyalists love the holiday with its spook factor, gory decorations, jack-o-lanterns and free license to dress up like kooks or clowns and overindulge … Read More