9 Signs That Your Child is Struggling While Away at College and 9 Steps You Can Take to Help.

Recently we have noticed a marked increase in calls from distressed and anguished parents seeking help for their distressed, depressed, withdrawn and anxious college students. A number of these students are either struggling while away at school, have returned home mid-semester taking a leave of absence or planning not to return to school at all after winter break.  It’s a challenging time for all replete with worry, shame and feelings of failure for all involved.

Attending a 4-year college away from home as long been regarded as our cultural equivalence … Read More

Reclaiming Psychological and Emotional Freedom

by Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-R

Reclaiming psychological and emotional freedomEven though we live in a “free” country I question how truly free many of us experience ourselves to be. Being a therapist, I spend many hours of my days sitting and listening to different people who don’t exactly feel so free in life.

I hear people express how they feel trapped by debt, financial worries, social pressure and social stigma. They feel hindered by anxiety, fear, anger and depression, and imprisoned in dysfunctional or abusive relationships or personal disillusionment. Everyone it seems is dealing with … Read More

Why its Crucial to do NOTHING!

by Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-R

woman sitting outdoorsIn our culture, especially the NYC Metro area culture where it tends to be all about ambition and success and striving to become or make something, the notion of sitting and vegging out and doing nothing can seem improbable, impossible and at worst lazy! I’d like to counter that thought and galvanize a movement of “Nothing-doers” to encourage people everywhere who are over-scheduled, over-stressed and overwhelmed or even people who seem to have it all “in-check” to pencil in some time to sit, chill, veg-out … Read More

The Need to Normalize and Prioritize Discussion of Mental Health

by Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-R

Recently Nicholas Kristof of the New York Times wrote an editorial in which he outlined the necessity for placing Mental Health at #1 on the agenda of news pundits and journalists to address in their work. To those of us who work in the field of mental health, what Mr. Kristof writes resonates deeply on a visceral level; for our purpose in entering this field of work is exactly that – tending to those who struggle with and hopefully thereby easing the burden of the various … Read More

Why Do I Feel SO Guilty and How Do I Get Over It???

by Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-R

The topic of grappling with guilt is an all too familiar one for a lot of people and it is a recurring theme  in sessions with many of my clients and quite frankly, one I’ve wrestled with myself.   Guilt is a powerful and simultaneously wretched emotional state, one we are at once all too eager to rid ourselves of yet can’t seem to climb out from underneath its weight. Like most uncomfortable and unwanted feeling states, if we tend to it with care and curiosity, the … Read More

Understanding The Phenomena of Mass Murder Shootings and Social Isolation

by Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-R

The tragic shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary School on December of 2012 has left many of us dumbfounded and heartbroken. In the discussions following the deadly shooting contributors from the medial and mental health field devoted ample time to trying to provide a rational explanation for such an irrational act. According to figures extracted from Mother Jones, since 1982 there have been 62 mass shootings in the USA, twenty five of those shootings have occurred since 2006.  These numbers indicate that the mass shooting incident rates … Read More

Managing Your Feelings During The Holidays

by Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-R

The holidays are finally here!!! Time to break out your jingle bells and celebrate, right? Not so fast. For many people, instead of looking forward to a big bag of gifts and joy, many experience the holidays as a mixed bag of misery and despair, a syndrome we at NYC Therapy Group refer to as, “holidepression“. We describe Holidepression as a syndrome in which an individual, couple or family experiences one or more of the following feeling states that is triggered by the holiday … Read More