Honoring the Mothers Who Shape Us

by Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-R

Mother with her baby. Photo in old image style.I attended my first blessing circle recently for a most precious friend and mother. This blessing circle took the place of our culturally accepted and expected “baby shower” and so instead of showering the second-time-around-mom- to-be with gifts of baby booties and onesies, we bestowed gifts of love, friendship, support, positive energy and blessings for a smooth birthing process.

What touched me most about this ritual was how we began. We were asked to introduce ourselves to one another via our lineage of mothers as far … Read More

A Must for Back to School – Increasing our Children’s Emotional IQ

by Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-R

As we’ve all been busy prepping our kids for going back to school, buying book NYC Therapy Group, New York, Riverdale, Manhattanbags, notebooks and the like, we must not forget the most important preparation of all which doesn’t cost us a dime yet is priceless – teaching our children emotional awareness of and sensitivity towards their feelings and the feelings of others – or increasing their emotional IQ for short.

Educating our children about the range of feelings they can feel, teaching them how to name feelings they or others are having … Read More

Why You Ought to Be Concerned About Your Neighbors Mental Health

by Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-R

young man knockingThe impact of mental health issues, especially those that go untreated, reaches every single one of us. If you or someone you are personally connected to are struggling with mental health issues then you know firsthand the devastating and extraordinarily painful challenges that come with the territory. And if you are not directly experiencing the struggle of managing mental health issues, frankly it’s foolish to think that the issues and ills of the human psyche that permeate most every aspect of regular usual daily life won’t … Read More

Tips for Handling Conflict in Couples

by Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-R

Conflict happens in every relationship. In fact, it is an inevitable part of any close and meaningful relationship between people who share and care about each other.  When managed correctly, conflict can be a wonderful opportunity for growth and may significantly strengthen the bonds of a relationship.  Nevertheless, when conflict occurs too often and is managed in a non-constructive manner, it can drive a wedge between what could otherwise be a healthy relationship and serve to push people apart from one another. After a prolonged period … Read More

What Does It Take To Be HAPPY?

by Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-R

A conversation on the topic of “happiness” is a common one occurring within the walls of a psychotherapy office. Not so long ago, I had one such conversation with a client in which they offered me two varying perspectives on “happiness” that they felt were possible to hold simultaneously but struggled to do so. These two perspectives are as follows….

Aristotle: ” Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of life, the whole aim and end of human existence”

Comedian/Actor, Dennis Leary: “Happiness comes in small … Read More

Why Do I Feel SO Guilty and How Do I Get Over It???

by Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-R

The topic of grappling with guilt is an all too familiar one for a lot of people and it is a recurring theme  in sessions with many of my clients and quite frankly, one I’ve wrestled with myself.   Guilt is a powerful and simultaneously wretched emotional state, one we are at once all too eager to rid ourselves of yet can’t seem to climb out from underneath its weight. Like most uncomfortable and unwanted feeling states, if we tend to it with care and curiosity, the … Read More

Understanding The Phenomena of Mass Murder Shootings and Social Isolation

by Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-R

The tragic shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary School on December of 2012 has left many of us dumbfounded and heartbroken. In the discussions following the deadly shooting contributors from the medial and mental health field devoted ample time to trying to provide a rational explanation for such an irrational act. According to figures extracted from Mother Jones, since 1982 there have been 62 mass shootings in the USA, twenty five of those shootings have occurred since 2006.  These numbers indicate that the mass shooting incident rates … Read More

How to Get Help with Solving Relationship Issues

by Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-R

Getting help with relationshipsRelationships are the cornerstones of our lives. We discover and come to understand ourselves through our relationship to all that surrounds us – our family, our environment, our peers, co-workers and the list goes on.

It is a natural and healthy human need to want to be loved, liked, appreciated and accepted and to reciprocate these feelings in a trusting, loving intimate relationship. Simply put, healthy, satisfying relationships nourish and enrich our lives. Yet, because we are all so uniquely individual ourselves, and because we each … Read More