I Have To Stop Saying I Have To

Weighed down by your responsibilities? Feeling stressed out or even dread about all you “have to” do and take care of? Well, I hear you my friend and I’ve been reflecting about this word “responsibility”, the responsibilities that fill our lives and how we relate to them. Let’s take a look…

Part of this reflection was prompted by my noticing and dislike of hearing myself begin sentences with, “I have to…” or “I’ve got to…” or “I need to…” or some slang gripe about what I was about to do … Read More

The Anxiety of Parenting

Motherhood is not so colorful...Look around you, do you see us? We’re not hard to notice. We are the current crop of modern day parents doing our best to care for our children while tending to the sometimes overflowing spring of anxiety stirring beneath the surface. (Full disclosure here…as a working mom of two school-aged children, I count myself as one of them.)

For some parents the anxiety seeps out of their pores and is tangible in their aura, for others it’s a little better concealed but nonetheless just as potent and jarring. (Personally … Read More

What IS Love and What is it TO Love?

By Amir Levine, PhD, LCSW and Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-R

word love at sunsetExploring what love is, is no light task. Just look at the multitude of songs, poems, stories, paintings and sculptures that have been created throughout history on the basis of this magical four letter word. Innumerable gestures of honoring love and the countless attempts to understand love’s phenomenology including love’s joy as well as love’s pain has given life to a wealth of artistic masterpieces and gems. Yet despite these timeless musings, reflections and creations, people continue to wrestle with understanding … Read More

A Must for Back to School – Increasing our Children’s Emotional IQ

by Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-R

As we’ve all been busy prepping our kids for going back to school, buying book NYC Therapy Group, New York, Riverdale, Manhattanbags, notebooks and the like, we must not forget the most important preparation of all which doesn’t cost us a dime yet is priceless – teaching our children emotional awareness of and sensitivity towards their feelings and the feelings of others – or increasing their emotional IQ for short.

Educating our children about the range of feelings they can feel, teaching them how to name feelings they or others are having … Read More

SELF-CARE, Important Considerations and What You Can Do Now to Make a CHANGE!

by Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-R
Self Care
Everybody does it to some extent, yet a vast majority of people continue to struggle with it.
 And when you’re doing well with it, you may find yourself buoyant, glowing and more satisfied. Yet when it is lacking you may feel ragged, edgy or dour.

The it we are referring to here is that softly spoken and yet seemingly under-valued practice of SELF-CARE and so we decided to devote our summer newsletter to exploring SELF-CAREwhy it can seem so elusive and suggest steps … Read More

Reclaiming Psychological and Emotional Freedom

by Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-R

Reclaiming psychological and emotional freedomEven though we live in a “free” country I question how truly free many of us experience ourselves to be. Being a therapist, I spend many hours of my days sitting and listening to different people who don’t exactly feel so free in life.

I hear people express how they feel trapped by debt, financial worries, social pressure and social stigma. They feel hindered by anxiety, fear, anger and depression, and imprisoned in dysfunctional or abusive relationships or personal disillusionment. Everyone it seems is dealing with … Read More

Fatherhood…Consider This:

by Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-RFatherhood

FATHERHOOD… How do you think about it? What value do you place on the role fathers and father figures play in children’s lives? What do you know about what it means to be a father in today’s society and the struggles, stresses in addition to the joys that fathers experience?

When the first official “Fathers Day” celebration of record was held on June 19, 1910, the roles of mother and father were much more traditional and straightforward then they are now. Family compositions are more varied Read More

Can We Talk About NEEDS?

by Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-R

In my work I come by a lot of mixed feelings regarding that little N word…NEEDS. Some people have difficulty acknowledging their needs, some people feel uncomfortable having needs and some struggle with expressing their needs. Alternatively, others may feel especially peeved or averse by another’s perceived over-emphasis of their needs (aka, “being too needy”), meanwhile others can be almost too accommodating of another’s needs thereby compromising their safety or well-being at times.

At what point along our journey in this life do we become so … Read More