I Have To Stop Saying I Have To

Weighed down by your responsibilities? Feeling stressed out or even dread about all you “have to” do and take care of? Well, I hear you my friend and I’ve been reflecting about this word “responsibility”, the responsibilities that fill our lives and how we relate to them. Let’s take a look…

Part of this reflection was prompted by my noticing and dislike of hearing myself begin sentences with, “I have to…” or “I’ve got to…” or “I need to…” or some slang gripe about what I was about to do … Read More

Tips on How to Find the Right Therapist For You

It can take someone weeks, months, even years before they pick up the phone and make that first call to a therapist. And when they do, they are often filled with a mix of feelings such as fear, shame, uncertainty, pain and hope; hope that this therapist, this stranger on the other end of the phone might be the one who can help them find the answers they are looking for to stop the struggle or suffering in their lives so they can live happier and healthier.

If you are … Read More

9 Signs That Your Child is Struggling While Away at College and 9 Steps You Can Take to Help.

Recently we have noticed a marked increase in calls from distressed and anguished parents seeking help for their distressed, depressed, withdrawn and anxious college students. A number of these students are either struggling while away at school, have returned home mid-semester taking a leave of absence or planning not to return to school at all after winter break.  It’s a challenging time for all replete with worry, shame and feelings of failure for all involved.

Attending a 4-year college away from home as long been regarded as our cultural equivalence … Read More

SELF-CARE, Important Considerations and What You Can Do Now to Make a CHANGE!

by Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-R
Self Care
Everybody does it to some extent, yet a vast majority of people continue to struggle with it.
 And when you’re doing well with it, you may find yourself buoyant, glowing and more satisfied. Yet when it is lacking you may feel ragged, edgy or dour.

The it we are referring to here is that softly spoken and yet seemingly under-valued practice of SELF-CARE and so we decided to devote our summer newsletter to exploring SELF-CAREwhy it can seem so elusive and suggest steps … Read More

Reclaiming Psychological and Emotional Freedom

by Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-R

Reclaiming psychological and emotional freedomEven though we live in a “free” country I question how truly free many of us experience ourselves to be. Being a therapist, I spend many hours of my days sitting and listening to different people who don’t exactly feel so free in life.

I hear people express how they feel trapped by debt, financial worries, social pressure and social stigma. They feel hindered by anxiety, fear, anger and depression, and imprisoned in dysfunctional or abusive relationships or personal disillusionment. Everyone it seems is dealing with … Read More

Fatherhood…Consider This:

by Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-RFatherhood

FATHERHOOD… How do you think about it? What value do you place on the role fathers and father figures play in children’s lives? What do you know about what it means to be a father in today’s society and the struggles, stresses in addition to the joys that fathers experience?

When the first official “Fathers Day” celebration of record was held on June 19, 1910, the roles of mother and father were much more traditional and straightforward then they are now. Family compositions are more varied Read More

Why You Ought to Be Concerned About Your Neighbors Mental Health

by Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-R

young man knockingThe impact of mental health issues, especially those that go untreated, reaches every single one of us. If you or someone you are personally connected to are struggling with mental health issues then you know firsthand the devastating and extraordinarily painful challenges that come with the territory. And if you are not directly experiencing the struggle of managing mental health issues, frankly it’s foolish to think that the issues and ills of the human psyche that permeate most every aspect of regular usual daily life won’t … Read More

Why its Crucial to do NOTHING!

by Veronica Vaiti, LCSW-R

woman sitting outdoorsIn our culture, especially the NYC Metro area culture where it tends to be all about ambition and success and striving to become or make something, the notion of sitting and vegging out and doing nothing can seem improbable, impossible and at worst lazy! I’d like to counter that thought and galvanize a movement of “Nothing-doers” to encourage people everywhere who are over-scheduled, over-stressed and overwhelmed or even people who seem to have it all “in-check” to pencil in some time to sit, chill, veg-out … Read More